These last vacation days have been crazy-amazing, I got to say. First off, we had a wonderful family re-union on Thanksgiving since everyone arrived back home from all parts of the US. However, back in the day, when we were very young, we enjoyed Black Friday shopping. We weren’t fans of all the violence and dangers that follow that crazy shopping day, but I believe we can all agree on being fans of the great discounts. So after we exchanged some thoughts and news, someone mentioned the idea of going back to a Black Friday as a family again (like the good old times.) So that’s what we did.
Night before, we watched some family shows and videos we have recorded of great television shows. We also made sure though we get to bed early enough, since Black Friday requires you to be up earlier than chickens in a farm. 4 AM was the wake-up call to get to the big malls by 5 AM. We actually live in a smaller area near these big shopping malls, so yes: it was totally doable for us to get there in time (for anyone wondering.) The lines were huge at Target and Walmart. I mean I don’t think I’ve seen so many people waiting to get in before. It’s actually an amazing view and it’s beautiful to watch. The only thing I am disgusted by is again: the violence that follows this day. Fortunately, we live in a small area and most people still have some substance within their two ears. So rarely do we get the crazy behaviors seen in states like California.
Many times before, I have talked about the dynamics within my own family both before the adoption and after the adoption. And although many of you will wonder how can a young child remember dynamics (since adoption took place over 10 years ago), I assure you that children’s memories rarely fade away. So feel free to review what I’ve stated before about the years before the adoption and years after it, as today I’ll be talking about the current relationships that are maintained among the family members.
If you don’t recall, my family has 10 family members (including my self) with 5 boys and 3 girls that were adopted from Liberia. Many psychologists have worked on figuring out the relationships built and maintained among different siblings (depending on age and age difference) but not many (if any) have worked on figuring out what happens when 3 new children are added to a family. How does the structure change? How do the small previously formed smaller communities within the family evolve? These are some of the questions I’ll answer for my case. I’m not going to make general statements about all families that have adopted children.
I’m not going to make things to complicated with time frames and when exactly did this trip take place. It was somewhere within the first five years of the adoption. Basically we had never at that point taken a family trip-vacation (not even prior to the girls arriving at our home) and we thoughts it would be a good idea to visit places and paint some beautiful memories to remember for the rest of our lives. Needless to say, expenses were huge and that was kind of the “sad part” of it all. But what can you do…
So the way this started was, my father believed we should be doing something special. We always tried to take small road trips whenever we had a chance, but to actually go on a plane ride overseas for a month, was something unheard of for us.